My definition of ‘good sex’ is the sexual intercourse between legally married husband (male) and wife (female) that both the husband and the wife equally enjoys. My definition of ‘believer’ is a person who has given his heart to Jesus (a born-again Christian).
Question: Suppose I am a young believer, and a virgin, looking forward to getting married soon, and I have come to you, my close friend and fellow believer to ask questions about sexual matters in marriage. How do you explain to me the pleasures that are in good sex? Please share your thoughts freely… and in three days time I will return to let you know why I asked the question. God bless you all.
That was the question I posted on my Facebook page, and for two days running, no man responded to my question.
The question came during my communion with the Lord early on Sunday morning, November 16, 2014 . When it came, it was questionable until I could perceive that God was talking to me in an unusual manner. I am not surprised that you did not respond to my question. Talking about sex is a no-go area in Christendom as far as many people wants it so to be. Have you had good sex in your marriage? If your answer is yes, glory be to God. If you cannot say Yes affirmatively, my prayer for you is that the Lord will favor your cause and make you to enjoy the fullness of the pleasure of being one with your spouse in Jesus Name.
If you are truly married and you are not enjoying your sex life, you are not depriving your spouse; rather you are depriving yourself because when you enjoy it, you obtain the benefit of a good sex life.
In marriage, sex is an issue that can easily crush a home. If it is an issue of not enjoying a good meal at home, you can go to an eatery to satisfy yourself… and your spouse will not bother you but rather say ‘thank God this man spared me the stress of cooking today’, although this will affect your relationship somehow, but not as when you have someone who satisfies you sexually outside of your marriage. Sex drives men out easily than any other factor because men are like aluminum pan whilst women are likened to clay pots.
Those who have had a good sex experience will discover that they cannot answer my question. Why?
It is very difficult to describe the kind of pleasure you get when you have a good sex. It is a thing to be experienced personally to know how it feels.
There are categories in this issue my brethren! The man driving in a rickety car does not know the pleasure derivable from driving a custom made fully loaded brand new car until he drives one.
My friend, no one can explain how pleasurable it is to be at the right hand side of the Most High God!!! You don’t know what you are missing until you come to the right hand of God!
As beautiful as the pleasure of good sex is, you will come out of it after a while, but the pleasure you derive from the right hand side of God is for evermore. You enjoy an indescribable pleasure for evermore! The joy you feel when you get to the right hand side of God is indescribable!!
In Psalm 16:8, David was on the left hand side of God, and he was well protected just like you are as a believer. His heart was glad and his glory rejoiced and his flesh also rested in hope while he was at the left hand side of God. But, when he ventured to check out the right hand side of God, he discovered pleasures; pleasures that is indescribable with human words.
Human beings are created to have hands that differ in strength and usability, and we were created in the image of God. God’s hands differ in usability! O thou that savest by thy right hand; Thy right hand, O Lord, is become glorious in power: thy right hand, O Lord, hath dashed in pieces the enemy... Thou stretched out thy right hand, the earth swallowed them ((Psalms 17:7; Exodus 15:6, 12).
The right hand of the Lord is where you find all that makes for comfort both in this life and hereafter whilst the left hand of the Lord is for Judgment; little wonder will he say to those ‘on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels (Mathew 25:41)’ Come to the right hand side of the Lord my brethren.
What must I do to get to the right hand side of God? He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, if it were not so, I would have told you.
You first have to get to his presence before you can get to his right hand side, and in his presence you find fullness of joy that propels you into keeping ALL the word of his majesty, for whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.When you are at the left hand side of God, Self still has a foothold on you. Sin and worldly things still looks attractive to you; your human nature is not completely dead. You will only be able to move to his right hand when Self in you is completely dead. God is simply calling you to a deeper relationship and the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosever will, let him take the water of life freely. Will you come to the right side of God?